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Book review: Ihana herkkyys by Suvi Bowellan

This is a Finnish book about sensitiveness and Highly Sensitive People (HSP). The past two months have been weird both with my physical and mental health and when I came across the concept about HSP, I definitely had a feeling of “ohhh, so that’s why”. 🙂

Somehow October feels like a good time to just chill, relax and read self-help books. It’s getting colder and darker outside so it’s very acceptable to curl up with a book and a blanket. Even though I’m still not completely healthy, I love autumn. It brings a sort of comfort with it and a kind of permission to slow down.

This was definitely an interesting read, and I think I want to learn more about this subject to understand myself better.

We talked about these matters with my husband, things like: how I tend to cry my eyes out whenever something even remotely touches my emotions or memories (hello all the Disney or Christmas songs) or how I feel very strongly for fictive characters and immerse myself totally inside their stories (hello fantasy books, games, tv series). Scents trigger strong feelings as does music. I can also feel very bad for others when they are suffering, and it’s been highly important to learn to see the difference between my own actual feelings and the empathy I’m feeling for others.

I get easily overwhelmed whether it’s about real things of fictional ones. A large number of strangers at an event feels exhausting to me quite quickly, and I cope better with fewer people around me when there’s stimulation for my senses. I’m also an introvert so that also makes engaging strangers challenging. And combined with being at least partly a Highly Sensitive Person explains why so many moments have felt uncomfortable.

My life is mostly about empathy and “feeling” the visible or invisible notes around me. In my honest opinion I’ve always been good at that, and consequently it has led me to do the work that I do these days: listening to people, coaching them and caring about their wellbeing.

So anyways the book is written by wellbeing writer and life coach Suvi Bowellan, and the book is absolutely beautiful. It’s full of so pretty and calming pictures and they work as a great visual guide to learning about Suvi’s journey about being a Highly Sensitive person. I had many moments where I laughed and repeated example situations to my husband, who would then just dryly comment “that’s exactly you”.

Ihana Herkkyys is a good overall look to high sensitivity and it made me want to know more about the theme. I did not care about the more religious/spiritual part of the book, but as the author herself says, that’s not for everyone but just something to think about if it feels relevant. As said, the book is really beautiful, and very thought provoking so I can honestly say it was a nice, relaxing reading experience.

Strong sensory input and being really aware of the subtleties around me, and inside me, have always been there but I’ve never realized that there is a term for people who experience things like me and that’s Highly Sensitive People. It’s always great to learn more about oneself, and even though I still haven’t recovered from the tension neck/ear infection/overloaded nervous system it still helps to get more information about all the things that might make me react when everything’s not normal.

Ihana Herkkyys gets a spot in the Reading Challenge and fills the prompt of:

42. You like the name of the author

A book about high sensitivity and full of beautiful, often nature themed photographs. Not the most detailed book on the subject, but it was still informative enough and the “mood” of the book is a very calming one.

Author:

I love books, games and the coziness of our house (currently it's the kingdom of me and my husband). My work in a game studio as a Senior HR Specialist keeps me busy and social, but I am an introvert in my core. Navigating life between my very social work and my introvert, less social personality can be tricky and it goes hand in hand with my interest in overall personal well-being.

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